When my grandchildren were babies and toddlers, I spent a lot
of time with them and felt like we would have a great relationship.
Now that they are older (8 and 10), I feel like they are drawing
away. My gut tells me that I can still be a positive influence
and help their parents guide them down the right path. I just
don't know how to approach them. Any ideas?
Every grandchild (and parent!) should be so lucky!! You have
much to offer your growing grandchildren. Here are some ideas:
Find a way to communicate directly with the kids and
do it regularly. E-mail if you can, telephone if not. Today's
kids thrive on immediate communication techniques.
Ask them to help you set up (more) a new computer and
learn how to use it, or let them program your VCR to record
your favorite programs, or get them to teach you the latest
Teach them how to tie knots, how to bake bread, how
to read a map, how to make change.
Invite them to spend time with you one-on-one. You
can cook together, go to a movie, have a manicure, go to the
theatre or to a concert - things they wouldn't do at home.
Let them know
that you are in touch with their world. Ask about their report
cards. Discuss issues raised in the news. You'll find that
they will listen to you when they won't listen to their parents.
Be sure they know that you support their parents and that
you love them all. You are the ultimate cheerleader. Enjoy
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