Q. My daughter
is a high-school junior. She want to have a party to celebrate
becoming a rising senior. It seems like a great idea to me
but I'm worried about it turning into a drinking party. What
can I do to help this be both fun and safe?
A. It is a great
idea for a party! Just as with parties for adults, this one
will need lots of planning to go off smoothly. Sit down with
your daughter and listen to her ideas for activities (videos,
pizza or ice cream sundae construction…) decorations, food,
guest list and dates.
Try to help her
incorporate everything she wants within the limitations of
your budget and the size of your home. Try to keep the invitation
list small - 10-15 teens per adult. (And, yes, there will
be chaperones. It's your home remember?) The party should
be by invitation only. Your daughter can design and make the
invitations or you can buy them. Flyer-style invitations invite
mass reproduction so stick with a small group and unique invitations.
Set starting and
ending times for the party. Check your local curfew laws and
consider nighttime driving restrictions.
Be sure your daughter
agrees with your party rules:
- No alcohol,
or other drugs
- No one can leave
the party and then return
- Some rooms are
off-limits (bedrooms, formal areas of the house….)
Then plan how
you will be there without being square! You can watch TV in
another room close by without being in the way. Or invite
another couple to help chaperone and play cards or games.
Serve snacks often.
You'll all have
a great time making wonderful memories for your senior-to-be!
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